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Make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose.
Everything about God is relationship and everything about people is relationship. If we want to master relationship, we must learn how to get along with people. So, how can we get along with people in today’s self-centered, self-righteous, self-seeking society?
I believe the answer lies in four words – Make Me Feel Important (MMFI). The key word here is FEEL. I’m convinced people in every walk of life are going around with a stamp on their forehead that says - MMFI. Whether we admit it or not, we all want to feel important. And the more we can make people feel important, the better we’ll be able to get along with them.
So, how can we do to get along with people?
1. Acknowledge people. Be the first one to introduce yourself and ask them for an introduction. Make eye contact. SMILE! One of the best qualities of a pet dog is: he’s always happy to see us (regardless of the horrible crimes we’ve committed that day). People need to know that you’re glad to see them. That you're a pleasure to be with. Give your undivided attention to the person you’re with. By the way, this is true in dealing with children also.
2. Be genuinely caring about others. Jesus always drew a crowd because He was always looking for ways to BLESS people. He had no hidden agenda for Himself. He only desired to lift people up and promote others. He never condoned sin, but by the time Jesus got done with them, people always felt good about themselves. That’s the way our interaction with people should be. We bless, we motivate, we encourage and we lift people up.
3. Be more agreeable. People who are always pushing for their own rights, own agenda and their own opinions are poor in establishing good relationships. Everybody is different. Focusing on the agreeable will produce positive results. Anybody can disagree but a big person knows how to find common grounds and focus on the agreeable.
4. Learn the art of listening. Simple as it may sound, listening is one of the hardest skills to learn. Listening creates understanding. Understanding where the other person is coming from will help us be more gracious in our interaction. For example, most of us will be upset if someone cuts in front of us in a busy traffic. But wouldn’t we be more tolerable if we knew he was on his way to be with his child in the emergency room? People do (or don’t do) things for a reason. Understanding people’s “whys” will help us get along with them.
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Prefer the other person
(Romans 12:10). Let the other person go first. Suggest what
you want to do but allow the other person to make the decision.
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